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Montag, November 15, 2004

The first is on and about common grounds.. duh.. three different pple[frens] have discussions abt certain issues and a retired seminary professor join them later to be their guide.. it is a good read.. many issues.. such as a christian dating a non-christian.. i know many feel that we christians are being close minded.. i cut and copy this whole conversation from the book.
lauren is a former Catholic corporate attorney.
conversation abt not dating pple who arent't Christians.
Mac Gregor considered this for a moment. "You're right, I did say that, and I'm glad you reminded me. OK. Lauren, those extremist Christians you have mentioned back home in Baton ROuge and at UT, do you really want to date or marry oneof those?"
"Heavens no," exclained Lauren.
"That's right. think about it. There might be really good reasons for you not to marry one of those extremists. Marriage between somebody like you and somebody like that would be complicated and hard, don't you think? You already know this: marriage is hard under the best of circumstances.
"And remember what you said earlier, about being frustrated by these handsome guys who end up not being communicators? You said you wanted to know a guy intimately, and you wanted to be known. That assumes a level of security but also of shared core commitments. DO you really want to know one of those extremists intimately or have one of them know you intimately?"
"No."
"When you think of the guy you marry, don't you want him to be your soul mate? Someone you can commit to be with and he commits to you, and you share life--you do life together."
"Yes, that's exactly whati want."
"Well, if a Christian loves Jesus Christ more than any other person ot thing, if living for Christ is the core of core commitments, wouldn't it stand to reason that that Christian is only going to find the best marriage with someone who loves God just as much? It's about both the man and woman sharing the most important commitment--Christ--even before their commitment to each other. God is not some closed-minded ogre trying to stir up bigotry, but rather his command for Christians to unite their soulds only with other Christians who place Christ above all else is for everyone's benefit. It's smart. It's practical. Does that make sense?"

hmmm.. does it make sense to you? it did... it did.. for me, it such reinforced this knowledge... so for freunde who asked if religion is that and really important when i choose a mate.. it is a resounding 'aber ja!' heheh..

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